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"Divine Sky", The Angel Messages.
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Helping Emotions Heal Dr. Michael
Schlosser
Cynthia Rose Young Schlosser, c.
2004
Emotional energy is the feminine energy of alpha brainwave awareness. Now is the time that this level of awareness is going
through awakening, healing
and balancing within the Children of Light and Love all
over the world.
Uncomfortable feelings should not be bottled up any longer, denied, or suppressed by chemicals or addictive behavior. Attempts to "make negative feelings go away", or bypass them with "positive thinking", are ways of denying and avoiding AND NOT LOVING wounded feelings that need unconditional love from the adult self for the inner wounded child to heal. Most powerful negative feelings go back to earlier emotional wounding, and when negative feelings come up in day to day life, the inner child is crying out to be heard, validated and comforted. On the other side of the coin, acting out negative feelings creates more negative feelings. The answer is to not act out or deny wounded feelings, but to go within and heal the feelings themselves. Feelings are the water element, and like water, cleanse and purify through flowing freely and safely in an atmosphere of unconditional all encompassing love. Strong present time painful feelings usually go back to a previous emotionally traumatic experience. When the psyche is ready for a certain memory to heal, it will flood your consciousness with the feelings from that memory. Something or someone in present time will 'trigger' an old forgotten traumatic experience. The way to know unmistakably that you are "triggered" is that you will feel so very bad that you lose your usual upbeat or hopeful perspective. This is THE BEST time to do the emotional process described below. Unconscious emotions can best be healed at the very time when the "old feelings" of the trauma are triggered, flooding up into consciousnesss. This time is a gold mine for healing and transformation, but it is also the time when you (the triggered person) are least likely to take responsibility for them. Instead of acting out dangerously and destructively toward the present-time person or situation that triggered you, or frantically trying to deny or dissociate, the key paradigm shift is to embrace these painful feelings. Remember: This is by far the best time to process the feelings--and the memory they are associated with--when you are feeling the worst and feel the least like dealing with the original wound. Figuring out exactly which original wounding event needs to be cleared is an art which is perfected with practice. One good technique to use is to look at the present time feelings themselves. The present-time feelings are the door opener to the past. Here is that way to identify the original emotional wound: Make a list of all these, present-time, painful feelings and ask yourself, "When have I felt this way before?" Typically, more than one memory will pop up into consciousness. Usually there are a number of experiences, a pattern of them, in which these feelings occurred. The important memory to identify is the original one, the one that is the most painful. The way to determine that you have singled out "THE ONE" to process is to ask yourself "if all the bad feelings of it were completely gone, would it give me the most relief?" This memory, once brought back into consciousness, should be lived and relived in the imagination, over and over, feeling each feeling that comes up with unconditional love. Remember that once you have found and relived the key painful memory one time all the way through to the end, take stock of how you are feeling, then repeat it again. Recall the memory from the beginning to end, like a movie, all the way through to the end. Each time you relive the memory like this, more of the feelings of the memory come back, and more "pieces of the memory puzzle" will come back. The memory will go through spontaneous changes. Monitor these intuitive changes. When you have a desire to correct something, or if there is something you wish you could have said or done differently, go ahead and imagine that you are making the needed correction. You can even talk to your child-self from the perspective of the nurturing-parent-self, and then allow the child to cry whatever tears of release spontaneously arise in response to the loving input of the nurturing parent, who you wished you could have had at that early age. In doing this, the present-time adult-self is loving and validating a younger part of yourself. It was at that earlier time of life, a time of deep emotional wounding, that your child self needed loving and validation most of all. Changes in the memory that arise from these visualized inner interventions is part of a process that the psyche uses to heal. The Kahunas of Hawaii call this type of process 'O Pono Pono', and the native Americans refer to it as 'Recapitulation'. ++++++++++++ A SPECIAL NOTE about "negative feelings": Do not run away from your powerful "negative feelings"; they are the key to healing. Feelings stay the same only when they are bottled up and not felt. When they are expressed, they change quickly. By feeling all the feelings, crying the tears, venting the rage, reliving the pain, emotions are released and transformed naturally. By loving the feelings as you would love a small upset child, they are transmuted very very quickly, for that is the power of love. Remember that with painful feelings, the most difficult thing to do, and paradoxically the easiest, is allowing spontaneous painful feelings to emerge; give them enough time and permission to feel-them-through to resolution in a safe, loving, and non-destructive way. It is the only way they heal. The key to doing this is allowing any painful feeling that comes up to be felt with an accepting, unconditionally loving, and patient attitude. The creative aspect of expressing a feeling is to tune in to exactly how the feeling "wants" to come through. Then experiment with sounds and movements until you find the way that feels most releaseful. The most important precaution is to find a way to express these feelings non-destructively (to property, to self, and to others). Screaming into a pillow, or beating up a pillow releases anger and pain safely. Here is a technique that is helpful for facilitating the natural flow of feelings: Use eye movement, like your body does in REM sleep. While feeling, move your eyes back and forth, left to right and back again, slow or fast, in a circle or diagonally, whatever is most natural. This shifts the energy from one brain hemisphere to the other in order to process the feeling energy on all levels in all brainwave patterns. This is the divine healing energy of the Feminine Force. It is very dreamlike, and involves the same brainwave patterns that are used in dreaming. By learning how to do this, you are taking the automatic process of healing that happens every night in dreaming into conscious control. In this way you heal feelings as they come up naturally day to day. ++++++++++++ Feel free to call in angels for help, or perhaps ask the highest Divine Self of one of the people involved, including your own Highest Divine Self, to come back in time and heal the event. After the memory has been processed repeatedly, and most of the original emotional intensity has been discharged, new perspectives on the old trauma spontaneously emerge. These 'natural insights' and breakthroughs tend to shed a whole new light upon the old familiar way you have always previously framed the original memory. At this stage of the process, the motives of the people appear different to you, and inter-relationships between events surrounding the original trauma unfold themselves to you in wholly new ways. The memory changes significantly, revealing underlying facts and truths about the experience that were not noticed at the time, because the very power of your strong emotions clouded your understanding of what was occurring then. Stay with this process, reliving the memory over and over from the beginning to end, until you feel all the feelings and "rewrite" the memory completely through the healing images that come up naturally. These healing insights give rise to forgiveness, of self and others, understanding, and emotional healing. Once feelings and memories are completely resolved, positive feelings and thinking returns. When you have a final healing image, imagine merging or integrating this healing image with the original "wounded picture" of the memory. Watch carefully what happens when these two images are merged. The original picture of the memory changes into what is called THE RESOLUTION IMAGE. There are a finite number of emotional wounds; this process eventually heals all of the past traumas of your life. This frees up the energy in your body so that instead of holding in the tensions of all the emotional pain of every traumatic event of your entire life, your body can dance with the joy of the Divine in each present moment. This totally alters the chemical makeup of your glandular secretions, which in turn alters your aging process and stimulates your immune system. "And the last enemy to be overcome is death." It is becoming common knowledge in the scientific community that emotions are the causative factor in creating reality on a quantum level. As each one of us heals emotionally from our past, we free ourselves to feel Divine Joy and unconditional Love in the present. Radiating magnetic feelings of Joy and unconditional Love attracts Heaven to Earth. IF YOU ARE FEELING FINE, ENJOY THE FEELINGS AND LET THEM FLOW. Emotional healing work only needs to be done when painful feelings spontaneously come up. ********************************* See if you can find someone to do the 10 minute exercise with. Its very powerful for moving emotions through. We do it daily. With love always, Cynthia The two most important things to know about painful emotions is that the most powerful feelings are linked to the past, and if followed to the original wounding events, they can be healed permanently through recall and feeling the original emotions through. This leads to eventual spontaneous healing images in the mind's eye and in the emotions that replace the original painful memories. As these healing images reveal previously unrecognized underlying causes and situations surrounding emotionally wounding events, understanding and compassion replace victimization, anger, and hopelessness. The negative beliefs that the trauma caused about the nature of reality heal as well, and transform into positive life affirming beliefs. The other important thing to understand is that all feelings must be felt in order to heal, they can't be made to 'go away' through will or 'thought away' through reasoning, or medicated away etc. Attempts to bypass them simply make them go underground where they continue to work subconsciously. WAYS OF PROCESSING EMOTIONS Healing the Divine Feminine Force of feeling and form. Eye Movement in Flowing Emotions Remember to use eye-movement exercise while letting emotions flow. If necessary,this can be done very privately in public situations by pretending to read a book or look at a monitor. Tune into your feelings and move the eyes left to right and back and forth over and over again at a speed, from very slow to fast, that is comfortable to you. This works with the eyes opened or closed. Pay attention to the feelings and let the feelings flow and go through their changes, while the memories and the insights come. Eye movement shifts the emotional energy back and forth from one hemisphere of the brain to the other, allowing the energy to process. This is the same technique that the body uses naturally
every night in
dreaming. By moving the eyes back and forth, right to left to right to left, etc., at any speed slow or fast, the emotional energy is shifted from one brain hemisphere to the other. This allows the psyche to create spontaneous insights and healing images that heal the painful memories as feelings are allowed to flow. ******************************************* Ten Minute Exercise: Get with your partner and agree on a time to do some emotional dialogue. Usually it is good to limit this to about thrity minutes, although whatever feels right is the best guide. First you do the ten minute exercise and then switch roles and let your partner do ten minutes. Your partner acts as a facilitator and you decide on the question you would like him or her to ask you, such as "what's bothering you today?" or "what is coming up for you today?" Its best to express your feelings using 'juice' words, or words relating to exactly how you feel, instead of an intellectual detached description of how you feel ( mentalising). An example of mentalizing would be, "The finances are in terrible shape and Junior is staying out too late." An example of using 'juice' words, which is more conducive to expressing feelings, [as in, "where's the feeling energy?"], would be, "I feel very anxious and worried about
the finances. In fact, I am feeling
overwhelmed and scared." "I am feeling a little
anxious about Junior staying out too late."
In any situation, there are usually a mixture of feelings, some positive and some negative. A good idea: Do a negative/positive question. Your partner asks you, "What negative and positive feelings are up for you now?" First you say what it is that is negative that you are feeling and then you express any positive emotions. The partner says "Thank you for
sharing" or "thanks" and keeps asking
the question over again and you answer with first a
negative and then a positive expression
of your feelings using 'juice words' and staying
with the feelings as they come up.
The positive/negative exercise is especially balancing, opening up whatever you may be in denial about in both areas of what is troublesome in your life as well as what good is going on. Remember that feelings are just feelings, they do not have to be rational. The facilitator does not offer advice, interrupt, or try to "fix it" in any way. He/she just listens and then asks the question again when you are finished. It is a way of "peeling" the onion of your feelings. Emotional healing must come from inside, and the advice of another person, no matter how wise and well-intentioned, cannot substitute for your own inner revelations and healing. If you are the one asking the question, do not interrupt the person answering if he or she goes silent, with a far away look in the eye....this is the most pregnant time for inner change and insights. These long silent pauses are the most important time for deep inner work. As you continue this process you eventually arrive at the core feelings. Usually, just doing this much clears the air and brings you back to yourself. If it doesn't, even after repeating it a few times, you may need to do a trauma clearing. If you need to do emotional processing and do not have a partner, follow the directions exactly as if you did have one, carefully doing each step and perhaps writing them down. Reminder: Use Rapid Eye Movement [REM] while surfing the feelings. This is the eye movement that the body does automatically in dreaming. Emotional processing uses many of the same neurological states as dreaming, and could be termed "a waking dream". REM is moving the eyes back and forth, right to left and back again, over and over, at any speed that is comfortable, while reliving the memories or just feeling any feelings. This shifts the emotional-thought energy back and forth from one brain hemisphere to the other and allows it to process naturally. **************************************************************** TEN MINUTE EXERCISE AND TRAUMA CLEARING [This can take up to a few hours. This presentation is a very brief description of the process. An entire book is being written with details of this method. If you are attempting this and have questions, please feel free to email and ask them.] When you are facilitating a trauma clearing for a partner who needs to do emotional processing, first do a ten minute exercise with him/her until he/she comes to the core feelings. Then ask the partner to list their feelings words [negative) and to list corresponding negative statements about the beliefs connected to these feeings. It is good to write these down, so that if the person doing the clearing gets stuck you can read the feeling words back. This will usually get them going again so that they can unearth more of their feelings. If a person is really triggered into powerful negative feelings, it is advisable to do a negative feeling word list, then the negative ideas associated with this list first. Negative feeling words may look like this: overwhelmed, betrayed, angry, dissapointed, sad, blindsided, hopeless, suicidal, etc. Negative statements: I feel overwhelmed and betrayed that this happened to me. I feel insecure because life is full of unexpected problems. I am angry and disappointed that every time I think things are going my way something bad happens. [Often the feeling word lists are up to 20 feeling words long.] Now ask "When have you felt like this before?" The partner goes back to a previous time when they felt the same way. Usually this goes back to a childhood formative experience. If there are several memories, usually it is the earliest one. A way to make sure is to ask how they would feel if they could magically heal all the feelings connected to each memory. The one that gets the most emphatic answer of relief is the correct memory. Ask them to describe a mental picture of the trauma as if they had a photograph of the event. This is called the 'still photo'. Now the partner relives and describes the memory, saying what is happening using feeling words and staying with the feelings as they begin to come up into awareness. This is what you tell them to do: " First tell the story silently, then again outloud. Then you will relive the memory silently and follow that again outloud. We will do this until the memory begins to heal." Each time relive the memory from beginning to end. Remember that it usually takes approximately four to ten times of living and re-living the story before the healing image begins to emerge from the psyche. Each time you finish, go back to the beginning and remember it all the way through to the end, taking careful note of new impressions that emerge each time. Spend as much time in silent processing between sentences as you need. DO NOT INTERRUPT LONG SILENCES, OR FAR AWAY LOOKS....IT IS DURING THESE TIMES THAT IMPORTANT INSIGHTS ARE OCCURING. As in a dream, allow new information to present itself with each remembering. If at any point you wish that you had, or could, say or do something different in the memory, allow yourself to do so in your imagination. This is a part of the healing image developing........" At first, the emotions can be difficult and painful and it is important to STAY WITH THE FEELINGS as they come up. As the telling and retelling process continues, the emotions change and finally there are less and less painful feelings left that are attached to the trauma. By this time healing insights about the trauma have occured. Positive feelings are growing. As this is happening a new picture of the memory develops which is called the healing image. This image develops from the positive emotions that are growing. Allow the healing images to mature up and develop. Eventually there will be a final strong healing image. Now the partner is asked to merge the still photo with the final healing image. Imagine pushing the old previous painful picture of the memory into the new healed picture. The resulting image is called the resolution image. When the resolution image is obtained, allow plenty of time for it to be integrated into the psyche. DO NOT INTERRUPT THE PERSON CLEARING THE TRAUMA, THIS IS A RICH AND IMPORTANT TIME IN THE HEALING PROCESS. The trauma is cleared. The person clearing will know this because they feel a permanent weight lifted from their shoulders. Allow as long as they need to let the emotions integrate and re-align themselves. They are very sensitive and vulnerable at this time and it is necessary to be alone and in harmonious surroundings. Sometimes it takes anywhere from a few days to a few weeks for the psyche to integrate the change. During this time the person who has cleared is very sensitive and vulnerable. Like scar tissue, the newly healed subconscious needs time to firm up. Respect their space and let them stay in a "healing bubble" for as long as they need to. During this time, do not bring up loaded subjects or make demands. Note: If the emotions are too difficult to handle and do not respond to this method, it often means that there was an earlier wounding and traumatic memory that should have been processed instead of the one chosen. To avoid this, be sure to take time in the beginning to make the negative feeling word list carefully, and use this "constellation" of negative feelings as a map to help the person doing the clearing to remember previous times when they felt this way before. Usually it is the earliest memory. When you ask them how it would feel to clear each of the previous memories listed, the one that needs to be cleared will be the memory that will bring the most relief to be cleared. Often the person will say, when asked how it would feel to clear the right memory," Oh my God! If I could clear the feelings associated with that event it would be a miracle!" *********************************************************************** HERE IS ANOTHER DESCRIPTION Of THE TRAUMA CLEARING METHOD THAT MIGHT BE EASIER TO UNDERSTAND..... To get into your heart try this with a partner: [This is what Michael and I would do .....It's an adaptation of a shamanic technique...] Your partner, let's call him Wayne, asks you, "What feelings are up for YOU now? what are you feeling?" Use feeling words. If you can, just list them. But you may need to vent first. You may need to vent for quite a while . In venting, use feeling words with an " I " statement as much as possible. Such as, "I am fed up to here with being over responsible for other people's problems when I need to be protecting my psychic space in order to heal." or "I am angry that I have to keep on giving out energy when I'm tired, just when I thought relief was in sight.", etc. While all of this is going on, Wayne writes down the key feeling words in a list. Possible feeling words: Frustrated, out of sorts, hasseled, worried, fed up, angry, had it, don't want to do it anymore, tired, angry [again], unhappy, drained, out of balance, hopeless, powerless, etc etc. When you feel like you have expressed every single feeling, have your facilitator read the list of feeling words back to you. A few more may pop up as you are listening to him.. Add those to the list. This list is a CONSTELLATION OF FEELINGS. When the list is done, have him read it back to you one more time. As he is doing it try to remember when you have felt that way before. When have you felt this particular CONSTELLATION OF FEELINGS before? Were there earlier events in your life that felt like this? Take your time. You may remember many. Find the earliest and most painful memory. Don't worry if you don't remember it very well. Take what you do remember, even a brief picture, and describe it out loud while Wayne writes down what you are saying. Go back and relive this 'infected' memory a number of times from beginning to end, allowing it to change as it wants to with each reliving. Use eye movement when necessary. Alternate remembering it quietly to yourself with saying it outloud to Wayne so that he can write it down.Treat your remembering as a lucid dream, and intervene whenever you feel prompted to: things such as praying, invoking, communicating, etc. Stay with the process until you feel the memory heal. When the memory has finally completely changed and healed, describe what happened to Wayne and let him write it down. Finally, take a mental picture, a snapshot, of this finished healed version of the memory and merge it with the first mental picture of the original wounded memory. Describe to Wayne what happens when you do this so he can write it down. This is called the resolution image. How does your heart feel now? ************************************************************ Angel Message on emotions: Healing the Divine Feminine Force. The magnetic Divine Feminine force expresses itself through emotions and through the physical plane. Feelings are intense now because great healing is underway. Some people are ending lifelong relationships, leaving projects that they have faithfully given their all to, experiencing death of loved ones, and facing uncertain futures. They may be feeling great fear and trepedation about politics, health, and the future of earth. Wounded feelings from childhood are coming up to be healed in everyone. There are feelings that need to be healed now. This is necessary for the transformation of consciousness in the physical body. In flowing into these feelings, sometimes memories surface that feel violent. They have so much pain associated with them that the programed instinctual reflex is to do everything to avoid feeling them. It feels like life itself is at stake...This is a true panic attack. Everyone has experienced panic and these feelings are surfacing now to be healed. Emotions heal through flowing. Use eye movement to relive the tragic event, if you can remember it. Relive the memory over and over until all the feelings associated with it have time to flow. If you cannot remember anything, but just have the feelings, flow with them using eye movement and deep breathing. These are times when overwhelming feelings are coming up to be healed. KEEP BREATHING. Deep rythmic breathing is the foundation of holotropic breath work. Just as a woman breathes while giving birth, keep breathing when panic feelings come up. In addition to deep breathing, use eye movement and stay focused on the feelings for as long as it takes for good feelings to return. Usually this happens quickly. Traditionally when panic attacks happen...... the old paradigm of shutting DOWN the feelings IMMEDIATELY takes over. This has been accomplished through medication, alcolhol, diversion, dissassociation, denial, magic, hynosis, etc. Break the habit and STAY WITH THE PANIC. The panic passes in SECONDS.... BREATHE and use EYE MOVEMENT, and use every bit of will power and mastery to stay with the feelings and to FEEL THE FEELINGS through. Conscious flowing is how feelings heal. This is important, everything depends on GETTING THROUGH THE FEELING and NOT AROUND IT. Flowing is how EMOTIONS heal, denial just makes them unconscious and the body stores them as tension and stress in the musculature. Use eye movement and breathing instead of giving into disassociation or destructive acting out. It is wonderful when panic comes up. By healing these emotions, the Divine Feminine Force is healed. By healing the emotions of the dark dark wounding, the body is healed. It is like having an emotional bowel movement. Whether it is fear, anger, hopelessness, suffocation, betrayal, shame, etc, this is the healing process at work. The next time feelings become unbearable, stay with the feelings no matter how painful they are, use eye movement and keep breathing. The feelings heal so fast it is amazing. * Miracles. The note at the end of this message may also be helpful.... Note: A number of you have written about intense feelings of sadness, disconnection, pain, and anger coming up at this time. The feminine energy is the emotional energy and now is the time that the feminine energy is going through healing and balancing. Uncomfortable feelings must not be bottled up any longer, or suppressed by chemical means. Any attempt to "make them go away", or bypass them with "positive thinking", is just another way of refusing to FEEL the feelings that need to heal. Once they are healed, positive feeling and thinking comes naturally. The most difficult thing to do, and paradoxically the easiest, is to allow spontaneous feelings to come up and feel them. It is the only way they heal. Feelings are like water, they cleanse themselves the more they flow freely. Feelings stay the same only when they are not felt and they are bottled up. When they are expressed appropriately, they change quickly. The key to doing this is to allow any feeling that comes up to be felt with an accepting, unconditionally loving, and patient attitude. The creative aspect of expressing a feeling is to tune in to exactly how the feeling "wants" to come through. Then experiment with sounds and movements until you find the way that feels most releaseful. It hurts "good." The most important precaution is to find a way to express these feelings in a non-destructive way to property and to others. Screaming into a pillow, or beating up a pillow releases anger and pain in a safe way. Use eye movement like your body does in REM sleep. While feeling, move your eyes back and forth, left to right and back again, slow or fast, whatever is most natural. This shifts the energy from one brain hemisphere to the other in order to process the feeling energy on all levels in all brainwave patterns. When the feelings are strong, it's because they have re-awakened an earlier time in your life when you suffered a traumatic situation. Allow yourself to remember this time and relive it in your memory the best that you can, feeling the feelings that come up as you do so. Once you have done this, repeat it again, and remember the memory from the beginning, like a movie, all the way through to the end. Each time you relive the memory like this, more of the memory will come back, and more of the feelings will come back. By feeling the feelings, crying the tears, feeling the anger, reliving the pain, the emotions can release. The memory will go through changes, and some of the changes will be healing insights and desires. Follow these intuitive changes. When you have a desire to correct something, or if there is something you wish you could have said, imagine that you are doing it. The changes in the memory that arise from these imagined interventions is the process that the psyche uses to heal. The Kahunas of Hawaii call this type of process 'O Pono Pono', and the native Americans refer to it as 'Recapitulation'. Stay with this process, reliving the memory over and over from the beginning to end, until you feel all the feelings and "rewrite" the memory completely through the healing images that come up naturally. Be free to call in the angels for help, or ask the higher self of one of the people involved, including your own Self, to come back in time and heal it. This is the divine healing energy of the Feminine Force. It is very dreamlike, and involves the same brainwave patterns that are used in dreaming. By learning how to do this, you are taking the automatic process of healing that happens every night in dreaming into conscious control. In this way you heal feelings as they come up naturally day to day. When the psyche is ready for a certain memory to heal, it will flood your consciousness with the feelings from that memory. That is the time to embrace these painful feelings and process them, and the memory they are associated with, instead of trying to run from them. There are a finite number of emotional wounds, so this process eventually heals all of the past traumas of your life. This frees up the energy in your body so that instead of holding in the tensions of all the emotional pain of every traumatic event of your entire life, your body can dance with the joy of the Divine in each present moment. This totally alters the chemical makeup of your glandular secretions, which in turn alters your aging process and stimulates your immune system. "And the last enemy to be overcome is death." It is becoming common knowledge in the scientific community that emotions are the causitive factor in creating reality on a quantum level. As each one of us heals emotionally from our past, we free ourselves to feel Divine Joy and unconditional Love in the present. Radiating this Joy and unconditional Love is the precursor to heaven on earth. Special Addendum to 18 Pisces, The Angels of Relationship: Beloved, The escalating craze for sensationalism in the world stems from the numbness that people feel emotionally. Since so many people (out of self defense) have deadened themselves to virtually all of their feelings, in their search for meaning, many have experimented with stronger and more shocking ways to stimulate and awaken themselves in order to feel deeply again, as they did as children. They instinctively know that it is their feeling child-self that has access to rapture and ectasy. Their longing to feel again, to be excited, thrilled, to awaken to adventure, to joyously anticipate the next day, is so great, that often there is no price so great that they will not pay if they think that they can taste this exhillaration for even one moment. This desire for "awakening", to come to life emotionally, is the longing for life itself. When people cannot contact the sensitivity of their inner child easily, powerful stimuli-like violent and scary movies, which trigger an adrenalin "pump up"; dangerous hobbies like sky diving, racing, sexual affairs; 'reality' TV; taboo pursuits like child prostitution, cruelty, and other illegal activities like taking harmful stimulants, and any number of other forms of sensation seeking-are desperately sought to replace the natural emotional high that they long for. Not uncommonly people do practically anything just to feel alive again, so desparate is their sense of loss of the feeling sensitivity of the child self. >From their numbed-out perspective, most people assume fatalistically that access to this sensitive child self, once gone, is lost to them forever. They believe it is lost to them forever unless, perhaps, they are fortunate enough to fall madly in love. The possibility of falling deeply in love with life itself, often escapes them, and does not seem like a realistic option. Not understanding about the laws of emotional expression, they do not even suspect that their sensitivity has not been killed forever. They keep their wounds bottled up within, fighting to keep them at bay. They do not know that it is by going back into the memories and allowing themselves to flow with the feelings that come up, that they finally come to resolution. The good news is that the vibrant child that they once were and long to be again is still there-even in the most hardened wounded criminal. It is covered over by a shroud of unresolved emotional traumas. The hopelessness they feel about recovering their Real Self is itself an unexpressed emotion of one of their unresolved traumas, the traumatic experience "the incident where they gave up hope." By remembering this experience, and reliving it repeatedly within themselves over and over until all of the feelings come out, the psyche heals itself. Couples who have "lost that loving feeling" likewise believe that it is gone forever, not realizing that recovering their love more strongly than ever might be as straight-forward as finding and clearing the feelings which are blocking their original feelings of being in love. Those feelings are still there, and they grow when emotions are embraced with unconditional love, allowed to flow, and old painful feelings are no longer 'bottled up' inside. The Angels of Lotogi, and all of the Angel groups and enlightened Beings, have all banded together in the unconditional love of Divine Providence to bring heaven to earth. What bringing Heaven to earth means, is that the sacredness, beauty, and meaningfulness of all life is once again self evident to everyone in each moment. Experiencing the beauty of God in all beings is the natural birthright of each person and is easy and effortless in an emotionally enlightened state. When Divine consciousness, that is already present in all manifestation, is no longer shielded from awareness by numbed-out feelings and the veil of forgetfulness is removed, then the exquisite sacredness and wonder of each moment is returned. In even the most mundane of everyday activities the sense of anticipation, great joy, and discovery of precious treasures of consciousness is experienced, just by being. This is the great Tao, and the truth of Zen Enlightenment. The magical paradise that you long for is already yours- and surprise! This paradise is not somewhere outside yourself-is is found within your very own heart. The original archetype of finding buried treasure is the symbol for what we are describing. By allowing the emotional energy located in your body and subconscious to heal through flowing, layer by layer this long-sought-for child self is revealed and brought to the surface. The great paradox is that once paradise is lost within the heart, it is lost everywhere. And once it is found within the heart, it is found everywhere. The kingdom of heaven lies within. As above, so below. * Miracles ==================== The magnetic Divine Feminine force expresses itself through emotions and through the physical plane. Feelings are intense now because great healing is under- way. Some people are ending lifelong relationships, leaving projects that they have faithfully given their all to, experiencing death of loved ones, and facing uncertain futures. They may be feeling great fear and trepidation about politics, health, and the future of earth. Wounded feelings from childhood are coming up to be healed in everyone. These are feelings that need to be healed now. This is necessary for the transformation of consciousness in the physical body. In flowing into these feelings, sometimes memories surface that feel violent. They have so much pain associated with them that the programmed instinctual reflex is to do everything to avoid feeling them. It feels like life itself is at stake...This is a true panic attack. Everyone has experienced panic and these feelings are surfacing now to be healed. Emotions heal through flowing. Use eye movement to relive the tragic event, if you can remember it. Even if you can't recover the entire event, stay with whatever visual impression and associated feelings of the memory which you can access. Relive the memory over and over until all the feelings associated with it have time to flow all the way to neutrality (resolution). If you cannot remember anything, but just are aware of the feelings, flow with them using eye movement and deep breathing. Expect that you'll need to go through the impression a number of times, punctuated by a receptive pause between times of reliving it when you passively take stock, overall, of how the feelings and impression of the memory is changing. The perception that any aspect of the memory is changing in any way at all is your confirmation that the method is working. Welcome moments of feeling overwhelmed - times when the feelings fill you to overflow and come spilling out as tears or better yet as steady crying, or best yet as uncontrollable sobbing, screaming or moaning. Resist the impulse to cut off this natural healing reflex before it has completely run its course and come to its own completion, however long that takes. Traditionally when panic attacks happen...... the old paradigm of shutting DOWN the feelings IMMEDIATELY takes over. This has been accomplished through medication, alcohol, diversion, dissociation, denial, magic, hypnosis, etc. Break the habit and STAY WITH THE PANIC. The panic passes in SECONDS.... BREATHE and use EYE MOVEMENT, and use every bit of will power and mastery to stay with the feelings and to FEEL THE FEELINGS through. Conscious flowing is how feelings heal. This is important: everything depends on GETTING THROUGH THE FEELING and NOT AROUND IT. We can't repeat it too many times: Flowing is how EMOTIONS heal!; denial just makes them unconscious and the body stores them as tension and stress in the musculature. Use eye movement and breathing instead of giving into dissociation or destructive acting out. It is wonderful when panic comes up. By loving these emotions, the Divine Feminine Force is healed. By healing the emotions of the dark dark wounding, the body is healed. It is like having an emotional bowel movement. Whether it is fear, anger, hopelessness, suffocation, betrayal, shame, etc, this is the healing process at work. Learning to react to scary emotions by loving them and staying with them, giving them all the time they need to "run their course" instead of automatically judging them and banishing them is the paradigm shift. These are times when overwhelming feelings are coming up to be healed. KEEP BREATHING. Deep rhythmic breathing is the foundation of holotropic breath work. Just as a woman breathes while giving birth, keep breathing when panic feelings come up. In addition to deep breathing, use eye movement and stay focused on the feelings for as long as it takes for good feelings to return. In some people this happens quickly using eye movement. Usually there will be a period of transition between the expression of the bad feelings and the spontaneous return of good feelings. In the pause between times of reliving the memory, you can tell when you are close to resolution and the return of good feelings because you'll find when you're close to that point, that you'll scarcely be able to stir up the bad feelings as you take stock. The next time feelings become unbearable, stay with the feelings no matter how painful they are, using eye movement and consciously keeping up deep breathing. Of all the levels of manifestation--contrary to popular belief -- feelings change the most rapidly when they are loved, accepted, and appropriately expressed. Especially if you are one of the majority of people, who can benefit from the eye movement technique, your unpleasant feelings can heal so fast it will amaze you. *Miracles. ADDENDUM ======== After the feeling word list has been made, and the original traumatic event located, and the still photo described, next ask the person who is doing the clearing to list the POSITIVE IDEAS associated with the painful memory. Do this before they begin the tell/retell process. Usually their reply will be "There are no positive ideas associated with this terrible event." Gently urge them on. Even the most horrible war memories often yield some interesting positive ideas such as ; " Well, I survived." That is a VERY positive idea. Usually a few others crop up, such as , " I learned that I am strong enough to endure anything." " I have a lot of courage." " No matter what happens, somehow I get through." " I learned that I can stand on my own." " When my own family betrays me I find help in God." etc. Then proceed with the tell/ retell process. First silently to self and then outloud. As a facilitator, remember to write down the memory during the outloud retells. When they get to the point of receiving healing images, write these down too. When the final healing image is pushed into the original still photo, ask them what words go with it now. This is the POSITIVE feeling word list that has replaced the original list of negative feelings. At the very end, ask them , "How would you like to remember this event now?" and "What ideas go with it now." and " How does this change the way you live your life now?" Give them plenty of time to stare into space and be in the silence. Don't hurry them. These quiet moments are pregnant with insights. REMEMBER, DON'T GIVE ADVICE OR INTERRUPT, except to read back what they have said before if they get stuck, in order to unstick them. This is an inward process. Be patient. NOTE: Dr. Paul Michael Schlosser, pioneer in emotional trauma clearing in cases of
PTSD, made his transition on August 1st 2005.
Certification and Licensing by State of
Georgia;
B.A. Psychology, Duke University,
Ph.D, Georgia State University
the originator of Self empowerment
Emotional Healing Technology
His work in emotional healing self empowerment is being carried on by Cynthia Rose Young Schlosser, Steve Ponder Lyons, Barbara Murray, Keith McVay, and others who studied and taught with him. Dr. Schlosser had seventeen years experience working with combat veterans and PTSD, and 10 years of teaching civilians a
marvelous way of healing wounded emotions.
* Developer of Unique and Successful Trauma Clearing techniques * Coordinator of Couples Communication Workshops
* Expert in Integrating old and negative
feelings into a positive vision
* Facilitator in Holistic approach to realigning
the self with the soul
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